When will it heal? And what does that mean?

Time will heal all wounds.

I don’t know how many times I have been frustrated by this bullshit.
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Because: what is this supposed to mean?
It is just a sentence, nothing that means anything.
Or it means too much. It’s too general. Like ‘everything that lives will die’.
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Why is it supposed to help, that time heals all wounds?
In the moment when it hurts, it’s like saying ‘be patient‘ when something is frustrating. Just more frustrating.
I start thinking – so how much time? In which relation is the time of hurting to the time, when the wound is healed?
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It’s not time that heals all wounds. Time just passes.
It might help us structure our lives in a way.
But time can just as well go by and the pain increases, as the inflammation is spreading. Or someone puts salt into the wound.

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Actually – very physical processes heal wounds.

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Flow heals wounds. Fluid. Oxygen. Movement.
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And it itches, while it heals. It’s not all the time just becoming more comfortable, as it heals. It can get worse actually – the initial shockingly strong pain might pass, there is a moment of relief for that. And then it’s kind of ok. And then it starts to itch and be annoying, because it’s not as smooth and moveable yet, as it used to be or maybe will be some day.
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And then again. Movement. Touch. Flow. Those will heal. And it can be so frustrating to have to go through this part.

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It is so frustrating.

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Also because it’s unpredictable when is the moment of relief. When is it going to itch the next time? Which kind of movement will show that there is still some stiffness, limiting the free movement? And which movement is too intense for now, that will open the wound a little bit more?
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Time will heal all wounds.
Implies a focus on time. And time is out of my hands.
And I guess there is a part of healing, that is out of my hands.
That is, continuing to live. Continuing to breathe. Continuing to move with all the limitations there might be on the way.
But ‘Time will heal all wounds’ adds an element of waiting. Of wanting to be in the future. In the moment, when time has healed the wounds.
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What if, instead of focusing on the time when the wound is healed, I try to be with the pain and feel the healing?
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What if, instead of focusing on the time when the wound is healed, I actually notice what the wound shows me?
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About the area where I’m hurt. About what is missing. About what I need, in order not to break.
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What if, the wound is an impulse to do things differently than I have done them before and by this learn new movements and directions?
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What if the wound can clarify priorities? What is NOW?
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What if, I learn to breathe and adapt to me with this wound. As it is today. And then tomorrow I learn to breathe and adapt to me with the wound as it is tomorrow.
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And maybe sometimes it hurts. And maybe sometimes its funny. And maybe sometimes I am happy. And sometimes I feel love. And maybe sometimes it hurts.
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Independently from time. Influenced by movement. Flow. Change. Touch.
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