Welcome to my updated website! I’m excited to share with you the outcome of a process of thinking, conversations, and exploration with many people throughout the last year…
I offer both bodywork with individuals who would like to gain energy and attention to their body, as well as facilitation for groups who would like to enhance the pleasure of working together and be able to collaborate with each other in a way that is satisfying, successful and with integrity.
Working with the body and trying to define my work last year, I have come across many different terms. And the one that describes best what I do and how I approach this work is Embodied Collaboration.
I experience any successful encounter with a client – whether that is in individual sessions or in a group setting – as embodied collaboration. We define the desired outcome and frame as well as a common intention for our process of working together. We enter of course, with different roles, but with mutual respect and learn from each other and each others’ bodies.
While I am trained in paying attention to bodies and groups and adding awareness to different physical sensations or conditions, my clients are always the ones who come with the expertise of their lives. I get to learn about their habits, their worlds and learn from their courageous acts of daring something new or, confronting a challenge as well as from their questions and discoveries.
I share the exercises I know to strengthen this courage, determination, and curiosity when the world is challenging, we explore together, how to apply all of this in the life and situation of my client.
As we combine our attention, our experiences and our curiosity for creating a change in the current status quo – things change in the bodies as well as in our surroundings.
Embodied Collaboration also, because I believe that attention to the body and intentionally using the tools we have is strengthened by activating and combining all our qualities – collaborating for the best outcome possible at any given moment.
Breathing fully to gain energy is the successful collaboration of a lot of different aspects of our bodies. All the muscles, the lungs, our diaphragm, the skin… so much more. Our attention and understanding as well as our basic ability to live depend on this successful collaboration.
At the same time being able to breathe, be attentive and aware in the encounters with other people and our communication is the basis of being able to collaborate with them.
My experience is, that our work is most powerful when we collaborate successfully.
When we each ask the question we have, present the solutions we find as well as dare to challenge each other with an attitude of collaboration, we can grow and become stronger, mastering situations that previously seemed overwhelming or lonely.
My aim is, to create spaces in which this embodiment of collaboration can be explored, trained and developed.
My aim is for you to be able to strengthen the collaboration of all your qualities to master the challenges and pains you meet – with integrity.
My bodywork is aimed at creating a sensation of confidence and trust in your own abilities to heal and take care of your needs in life. In collaboration, we discover, which qualities you can leverage and which you need to strengthen, in order to deal with the pain or other challenges you meet. And where you can relax and enjoy life’s pleasures more easily.
Exploration and attention are key elements together with curiosity to try out and develop new exercises tailored to exactly your body and life.
My facilitation is based on creating a space and the trust for a group to discover their wishes and leverage their individual qualities to enhance the collaboration and be more effective and relaxed when working together. I come with tools as well as with my questions, to explore with you which needs your team currently has, in which way body attention can add value and where it is actually about finding a process of successful communication for all of you.
In February I offer Individual Sessions „Create Clarity with Your Body“ at 1/2 price for you who is curious to discover this approach. And if you decide to go further, the first „Short and Focused“-learning process will be at a reduced price of only 2200 (instead of 3000kr), including 4 sessions and exercises for training at home.
If you’re curious about the Courageous Spaces for your team, contact me and tell me about your situation. I’m happy to discover how we could work together and which kind of gift could be fitting for you.
If you are looking for someone to explore with you, who respects your experience and expertise and challenges your assumptions, who will be there with you in the moments that require courage and curiosity – I offer my company and collaboration on your path.
Jeg tænker så tit på hvor meget sammenhæng der har været for mig i min graviditet mellem min krop og mit hoved, mens jeg gik hos dig. Nu har jeg jo prøvet at være gravid før, og selvfølgelig er anden gang ikke så overraskende som første gang.
Men alligevel var det så markant anderledes denne gang, med en kropsterapeut som ‘en del af’ min graviditet. Opmærksomhed og sammenhæng står tilbage som nøgleordene for denne tid.
Jeg følte mig afskåret fra min krop før jeg startede. Jeg ville flygte fra den. Det hele foregik fra hovedet og jeg lyttede ikke rigtigt til den krop. Den føltes – for mig – svag og syg. Det er tanker jeg gør mig nu, bagefter.
Samtidig savnede jeg virkelig kontakt med ‘mit indre’ og at finde en ro.
Det jeg oplevede i sessionerne var en fastholdenhed i kroppen. En dyb ro som ‘belønning’ for det at give slip.
Her var ikke noget hokus pokus, blot et stille og roligt fredfyldt nu, som du blev ved at holde fast i, og som jeg både blev provokeret af, prøvede at komme udenom, men som jeg samtidig længtes imod.
Jeg vred mig som en orm for ikke at lande i nuet, men vidste alligevel at det var den vej jeg ville. Du holdt mig fast kan man sige, ved blot at se mig – med få gode ord og en ærlighed som spejlede. Der er så meget rent, ærligt og fastholdende ved dig og din tilgang, noget ekstremt anti-flovt (hvis du forstår? – altså en skøn ting) som er så trygt og dragende at træde ind i. Det smitter så meget at du står så fast på dine ben og viser så stærkt hvem du er.
Nå, men alt dette kunne jeg tage et stykke af med hjem hver gang. Og det voksede langsomt i min krop og bevidsthed, denne ‘given slip’ i kroppen og fornemmelsen af fred.
Jeg ledte længe efter en FORSTÅELSE for hvad det var der skete, men du sendte mig igen og igen ned i kroppen og det blev derved mere og mere en kropslig erfaring som slog igennem, som gav ro og fokus.
Alt dette bragte jeg sammen med dig ind i min graviditet, ind i maven, ind til det lille barn. Det gav en samhørighed og skabte sammenhæng mellem mig og den lille. Jeg kunne helt klart mærke roen i mig og også i maven.
Det er svært for mig at forklare helt, men da Solvej blev født og i det halve år der er gået har der hele vejen igennem været en ro og sammenhæng mellem os, hun er det mest rolige, trygge, sovende, bløde, varme lille menneske, hun har en tiltro til verden, en ro som jeg er helt overrasket over.
Jeg er ikke et sekund i tvivl over, at besøgene hos dig har haft en kæmpe betydning for roen og trygheden i hende og i mig, både igennem graviditeten og videre ud i livet. Der er en naturlighed mellem hende og mig, som om vi har gennemgået noget sammen, allerede da hun lå i maven. Din kropsterapi er nærmest skræddersyet til graviditeter!
And I would say even when something ends, you gotta dance because the world keeps moving. Or at least – I gotta dance!
Today, we did the transition, handing over to the new board of the IAGMP and in the end, I had to dance.
Throughout the last two years, I have been a member of the board of the international association for Grinberg method practitioners. Restructuring an organization, together with a wonderful team, to create a member-driven, participatory environment. Based on our common approach to the body and our common wish for working ethically and with a high quality-standard for our clients.
It wasn’t always easy. At all. There were many conflicts we met and challenges to deal with along the way. But what kept me going was a strong desire for us as practitioners to have a space where we interact freely and practice on a professional level, what we otherwise teach our clients in individual and group sessions.
And this year, as I’m going out and handing over to a new board, we agreed on a new code of ethics and standard for our members (regular supervision, further training…) which I’m gladly committing to
I don’t know if this is as exciting for you as it is for me. But I am just so happy! Throughout the times of challenge and conflict I often had this image (and the actually physical need) of dancing with the impulses coming in from different directions. Using my team as dance partners and other impulses maybe as the restrictions within which I can move more freely.
So – we did this transitional conversation today, to the new board and after I left the conversation, there was this moment of awkward emptiness. Almost restless, I was thinking of what to do now, knowing that they are now continuing the work – this dance – without me.
And I decided to dance on my own. I was in my kitchen, doing a little goodbye dance – moving my legs and arms with the restlessness instead of holding myself to „be calm, let go“ I used the energy of this letting go to jump around my kitchen. And I can only recommend it – it was a lovely experience – even if it was just for the amusing, silly moment to celebrate this farewell.
2017 will be an exciting year. I will tell you more about the lovely things that I’m planning on investing more time in. For now, I just want to wish you a wonderful month of December. A wonderful transition between the years and projects.
And maybe some time for a dance or two.
On the morning of Wednesday, 9th of November, I woke up with a trembling belly.
I actually woke up at 4 am already, checking the first polls of the US presidential election in hope of being able to sleep more calmly after that. That didn’t happen. So I tried to just lie there and fall asleep again. Checked again at 7am. Still the same results, this time more manifested.
This has been a surprise in some way.
At the same time, it wasn’t.
At first, I was frightened of what were to come. Beginning to worry. Wanting to run and do something immediately.
I took some time, though, to notice this fear and to breathe and to notice what now?
There is something about this situation, that is even irrelevant.
The result doesn’t matter. Or it matters very little. What matters much more, is the state of the States. The political situation of the world. The fear that is in so many people is still the same. Now, the only uncertainty that is clarified is actually who is the face to all of this.
The campaigns in the US just amplified what is happening in so many places around the world.
People frightening people. (And channeling that fear for their benefit.)
Maybe, because fear is such a powerful fuel. Such an amazing power, that brings people to push through things and gives them the power to achieve something they never thought they could.
For some reason, fear has the reputation as something to be avoided. Or at least there is a lot of effort done, to show that we either avoid the things we’re afraid of (create safety). Or avoid feeling afraid and have a mantra of just trust the process, trust humanity, trust.
(Have you heard this?” I’m not afraid of anything.” „Don’t be afraid“? „Everything will be alright“? You just have to trust? Everything happens for a reason? Don’t worry? To me, these too are all sentences that are trying to avoid or calm our fear.)
And while some of these might be said with good intentions I also think, that this, actually helps continuing the image of fear as something dangerous and wild.
Fear as something that, as soon as we feel it, we need to avoid, hide, fight or “overcome”.
What if we were to learn, to be afraid without avoiding, hiding or fighting the feeling of fear inside us. And instead use it to be more awake, clearer and sharper in looking what is causing the fear and what needs to be fought, avoided or changed outside of us?
What if we were to change our attitude towards fear and consider it a superpower, showing us when something really matters to us?
When I try to avoid a feeling or fight a feeling, I need to do a lot of effort. Often in the belly, the shoulders or the butt even. I can sometimes notice holding my jaw tight, too. But all this effort means that I’m using energy for keeping myself still. It is an attempt to gain control over something when already I can’t control my feelings.
But all this effort not only uses up my energy, it also makes me inflexible. And instead of moving with the flow of these feelings and still being able to decide what to do, I get very fixated on one way of being.
Or in order to do something new and different, I again need a lot of effort to break through this fixation.
When I relax, physically, not numbing my fear or pretending that I’m not afraid, but just because I realize that I won’t actually be safer by contracting these muscles, something interesting happens.
Fear gets combined with a sensation of vulnerability. And there might be a sensation of flow. Sometimes my body starts to shake in some places.
All of this is internal. When I now continue to move in reality, interact with the people around me and read the world, I actually manage to notice more detail.
I can notice, not only the area in life that I’m afraid of and where I don’t know what will happen. I can also notice, that I’m still very much alive. I can still move and do things. I can still touch people. I can notice, how many people suddenly are awake.
Because in my experience, being afraid makes us awake, if we dare to keep our eyes open. It can give us an amazing power to achieve things we never thought were possible.
Fear can channel attention.
And just as someone can play the trick, to use fear to get attention for their cause… if I learn to tap into this power, I can channel the attention to what I find important.
It might take a moment longer, to teach more people how to do this (as there is so much work done, to avoid fear in the first place, it kind of needs to be un-learned, I think).
So instead of denying my very human feature of being afraid in times of uncertainty and big change, I attempt to own being afraid, so that no one can take advantage of it. I train attention to my body and noticing in which way my initial reaction to fear restricts my movement and attention. I focus on it for a moment. And then I practice letting go. Not of the fear, but of the physical effort that isn’t helpful at the moment.
To be able to do this, I need to have a moment of silence and attention. I won’t do it, while I’m running away from an acute threat to my life. But when I’m, as last week lying in my bed at night, waiting for the results of an election and not able to sleep – I practice this.
One of the first things that I notice is the restriction in breathing. It could be breathing quickly. At other times it’s just stopped. And of course, in order to keep going, I have to have energy. So I have to have oxygen.
So I need to breathe.
It is so simple. Not because it changes the world, but because it keeps me alive. And then I can change the world around me. Which is quite an amazing, empowering sensation.
When I don’t invest all my energy into controlling a feeling (like fear) but into creating the change I want to see – I can actually be fueled by the fear. It can give me a push. It can keep me going and show me, where my world is still broken and needs my attention, power or determination.
Then fear doesn’t become the thing that makes me feel small and powerless because it restricts me. Instead, it makes me more awake – even in a moment where I don’t yet know what to do. I might need a moment to regroup, recover and rest when something unexpected or scary happens. But I’m not powerless.
I found, that this is something I can learn and train. And I’m happy to share one of my favorite exercises also with you, reading along.
A couple of months ago, I was on the playground with my friend and her wonderful daughter. Her daughter is about 1,5 years old and a very active, sometimes a bit rough but an absolutely lovely amazing beautiful loving child.
While playing with some other children, she started to hit them over the head with a plastic toy. Which of course, everyone around didn’t like. The other kid started crying, the mom came to protect it, my friend went over to teach her daughter about not hitting others, being softer and apologized to the other mom.
Since then I have been watching children play some more. And I have seen this a couple of times. There is one kid, that hits the other. The kid that got hurt is immediately protected, hugged by the parent, taken care of. The kid that is hitting immediately gets a lesson on being less harmful, not hitting, not being too strong etc.
And then. I have these people on my working table. Strong, powerful and inspiring people who become exhausted – mostly because they’re holding themselves back because they have this belief that they’re too much (too emotional, too strong, too direct, too… ).
It is exhausting to constantly hold back and evaluate which of our qualities is allowed to be shown and which isn’t.
And then there are these people on my working table.
Strong, powerful and inspiring people who become exhausted – mostly because they feel bullied by their boss, their employee, their government, their friends. Because they have no idea how to say no. How to stand up for themselves and defend against someone who is being unreasonable, mean, inattentive or even just has a different tempo than them. And they’re waiting for the other one to stop, adapt and see them.
Sometimes “these people” are one and the same.
Not knowing how to say no and stop.
Not knowing how to allow their own power to fully be expressed because they’re afraid they’ll harm someone they love.
Man this is FRUSTRATING!
Of course! I want to teach people to not hit others, or be aggressive or hurt them intentionally.
Of course! I want children to learn to notice the others pain and respect and empathize.
Can we teach each other to say stop!?
Can we teach to mark our boundaries and say when we’re hurt?
Can we teach, that not only will there be someone to give a hug (please give hugs) but also, more importantly, YOU CAN DO SOMETHING!
You can influence! You might need to practice. And sometimes the „something“ might be going away from that person.